Tips and advice for successful online dating.

If you’re new to online dating, don’t worry – we’ll make it easy and enjoyable! We are here to offer you no fuss, no hassle – just to make sure you have a great time and help you find your perfect partner, online and local to you. Here we have some tips and advice to point you in the right direction and get you started on your road to success!

For Guys

Be polite, courteous and honesty is the best policy at all times.

Make the first contact - send messages to several women you like, to increase your chances of getting a response.  Don’t be too specific about who you want to contact you - welcome all visitors so as not to let that ‘special one’ pass you by. The idea is to attract visitors and receive as many messages as possible – that way; you can see all the women who are interested in you. You can be choosy later on!

A very important hint – make sure any messages you send (especially the first one) is interesting and honest. Too many people send an initial message simply saying ‘hi’ and that’s it. No-one is going to reply to a message like that. Start with a catchy line and mention something you read in her profile or why you have contacted her instead of someone else. This will show that you indeed read the profile and are actually interested in her.

Always be honest and truthful. It’s a bad idea to exaggerate and make up things about yourself to try to appear more attractive. The woman must be able to get to know the ‘real you’ then if you get on and arrange a meet, you can be sure you are already liked for the person you are. Be yourself.

Choosing the right username is very important. It is your identity and can express many ideas about you. Choose a username that is not too corny or sleazy – something that you think really suits you.

For guys that like to date sexy, young girls, confidence and humour is key – but bear in mind, you need patience because it takes time for them to answer all their messages!

If you like dating older women, show maturity and remember that they love to feel desired, appreciated and wanted.

 For Girls

Be creative when choosing your username. It is important that your username stands out from the rest and gives a little hint at your personality. Let the real you shine through!

The idea of your profile is to capture male attention, so be flirtatious, kind, genuine and show your sense of humour. Above all, be honest!

Men are visual creatures. What often attracts a man initially is llooks, so include as many photos of yourself as you can.

When sending a message and creating your profile – don’t write a one liner, but then again, don’t write an essay either. Tell the basics, keep it interesting and then later, when you are ready to, you can be more open with specific guys, not just anyone. 

When you receive a message, it is polite and courteous to respond to it whether you are interested or not. It will also show members that you are a sincere person.

 For all

Be genuine, be polite, enjoy yourself, have fun and don't be too serious!

1. Try and respond to your messages as soon as possible. This will show that you courteous and sincere.
2. Visit the site often – more people will be interested in you, if you are actually around.
3. Show your personality, show the real you. You don’t have to be perfect – just perfect to somebody.
4. Keep your messages nice and shortish but more importantly, interesting. If you have not heard from someone after a few days, send them a short message to say "hi" and that you are still interested and if you still don’t hear from them, simply move on. Remember, don’t pester them – they may well be unable to answer for some reason but that doesn’t mean they won’t do later.
5. Write a great profile. It can greatly increase your popularity and chances with other members, and it is probably the most important part of being successful at attracting people online. The profile is your first "line of communication", it is therefore essential that you write an effective, witty and interesting advert that will capture people's attention. A profile that is well written and thought of will definitely attract visitors. Add photos – members with a photo receive masses more attention than members without.
6. Stick to the truth or you will eventually get caught out.
7. It is unwise to use abusive or bad language – this will put many members off.
8. Have a positive outlook, both in your profile and in your messages to other people. Negativity is a big turn off.
9. Be distinctive with you ad. Make it fun and unique – Make it yours.
10. As we mentioned, a picture speaks a thousand words – make sure you include a photo, as people will always want to see who is behind the words. You could blur your image if you are worried about privacy, or include just a body shot to begin with.
11. Set up your first meeting in a public place. Get to know the person first before taking matters further.  Nobody will object to this – everyone must understand the need for safety.
12. When you first meet someone, don’t talk to much about ‘the mad ex’ – save it until you know the person better or it can be a little scary!

Now it’s time to begin your search for your perfect person. Take note of the advice and we wish you the very best of luck in your search at Seeksfun.net.

Ps – We love a success story. If you have met someone great online, please do tell us about it. Email us at info@seeksfun.net.  We would love to hear from you. Any comments you have on our site will also be very much welcomed. Once again, the very best of luck and thank you for choosing Seeksfun.net.